I’m a loner. OK it’s out there. Apart from spending time with my husband and family you will most often catch me spending time with myself. Even though I’m happily married I still love a cinema visit for one as a chance to just be alone. As an introvert it takes a lot of energy to spend time with other people, and I need to mentally prepare in advance for a social event.
Have you ever done a personality test before? I always wondered why I felt like an outsider from a young age and after getting my result it makes so much sense. One year ago I took the test, Result: INTJ. You can take the test and find out your personality type over at 16personalities.com
INTJs – Friendships
INTJs tend to have set opinions about what works, what doesn’t, what they’re looking for, and what they’re not. These discriminating tastes can come across as arrogant, but INTJs would simply argue that it’s a basic filtering mechanism that allows them to direct their attentions where they will do the most good. The fact is that in friendship, INTJs are looking for more of an intellectual soul mate than anything else, and those that aren’t prepared for that kind of relationship are simply boring. INTJs need to share ideas – a self-feeding circle of gossip about mutual friends is no kind of social life for them. – Taken from 16personalities.com
Years ago I used to spend time in a big social circle, but things change, people change and you grow apart. In the last few years I’ve met a few awesome people, and nearly every single one of them has moved to other sides of the world – typical! HAHA. I now find it easier making friendships online with strangers than in real life. With the internet you can filter Facebook groups to your interests and find people you have things in common with.
In real life I guess it’s a bit like dating. You need to start getting out there to find people who match with you. I wish there were dating apps for finding friends!
I’m trying to make a bit more effort this year by getting out more. Who knows maybe I’ll find real friends one day, in the mean time no friends are better than fake friends 🙂
So anyone up for a friend date?
Here is my friendship dating ad:
27 year old, married female searching for friendship
Ideal friendship dates:
Dressing up at halloween (or any other times of the year) and scare the crap out of strangers. (organised events, not just in the streets – I’m not that weird)
Murder mystery nights
I’d like to give Larping a go
Fancy making a movie? (not a dirty one)
or even going to the movies.
I like food too – so meals are good
Maybe we could do some crafting whilst eating cheese and drinking tea..
Or a sky dive. Whatever
Worst idea of friendship date:
Going out on the drinking all the time
Talking about clothes, shoes, boys and make up
Anything super physical unless its fun – I ain’t running no marathon!
New life experiences
Bullshit and backstabbing
Fish served with the eyeballs still in
Ideal celebrity friend: Karl Pilkington
Looking for someone who can help push me out of my comfort zone of being an anti social b*stard, but who can appreciate sometimes I like to be on my own.
If you think this ad is lame then we wouldn’t make good friends.
What I bring in return to the friendship table is openness to try out fun and new things, no bullshit and fun times. I’m quick to respond to whatsapps also – super important.
Comes with: car, cinema pass, hot sauce collection, Xbox one, full set of own teeth and a good sized teapot.
If you think you fit the bill or fancy going on a friendship date get in touch firstname.lastname@example.org
You’d need to be up for a Harry Potter party at some point..